connie friendster 02

Hmmm. It is humiliating when your wife defends her right to privacy and her right to date other men regardless of the fact that she is married. It's shameful really but apparently in Indonesia that's the way things are so it's a cultural thing that women who are married or engaged or with boyfriends retain the right to play the field and date other men which is rather odd.

im amazed you defend her + i don't know if i should admire you for that or strangle you for it. this woman has systematically ruined your life, she lied about everything, she deceived you, she took tens of thousands of pounds off you, she controlled you, she manipulated you, she broke your heart, she continued to have affairs with other men who she bitched with about you for months, she spread vicious rumors about you that were total fabrication, she left you walking the streets of jakarta day and night until your feet were bleeding and you became seriously ill, you had internal bleeding and fever and did she care, no, she went out with her friends laughing about it all, if that's not enough, she spends most of her life sending and replying to sms texts, talking on the phone for hours and hours to her boyfriends and posting on all major social network sites across the planet from 9 am until 4 am day in day out and she pays for this with money given to her by the church which should be spent on food and medicine for starving children, she spends the rest on designer clothes and her rent money when she is more than capable and intelligent enough to get a job. she gains sympathy from the networks because she claims she has to stay home and look after her father which is just not true since she does not even look after herself, the maid looks after them both and who deserves to have a maid paid for them by charity money anyway, whilst she spends all her time socializing and shopping in designer clothes stores for bags and dresses. she took control of £20,000.00 of your money and tried to take control of a further £20,000.00 and then as soon as you left indonesia, just hours after she had seduced you for her own pleasure, she decided to end the marriage, keep control of all you money and totally ignore you. how can you defend her after all that she has done to you, she's continued to search for men to date throughout your engagement, whilst you was getting married and after you was married and she is still doing it now and she claims she loved you, you are blinded by love and you have too much respect for a woman that has no respect for you or any self respect, she has never thanked you for anything and she has hardly done anything for you at all aside from buy you a pastry and a few packets of cigarettes, she stole enough money from you to compensate her efforts there, you may still care enough to defend her but i am not in love with her and i can see her for what she is and what i see is appalling and repulsive. see you next month ok, just dont let her hurt you anymore

That's pretty accurate and all true and I can't find a way to defend that. Have a great time funk, I sure do miss having you around but when you get back, please don't strangle me ; ]

she took money from you for a visa. she then told her friends at Vox that she was praying to God that she would not get it. she told a whole pack of lies on the application and that's why it was rejected. she then told everyone at Vox that she did not get the visa because your sponsorship documents did not meet the criteria which is another lie because they told you that you had met the requirements 100% and then bonus on top. so she lied to you and all her vox friends choosing to humiliate and blame you in public.

her own church refused to carry out the wedding ceremony because she only ever went to church when she wanted money from them. Her excuse was that she had to stay home to look after her father and that's a lie because she does not look after her father and she has enough free time to spend all day and night socializing either on-line or off-line for her own pleasure and the only reason she does not go to church is because she just wants to play on-line and eat out all the time at her friends expense.

the first thing she did when you arrived in Jakarta was to tell you a whole bunch of lies in the company of her friends to get you to hand over £5,000.00 which she then put in her own bank account. to make it worse she even lied to you about the exchange rate and told you she needed more money, a lie that was confirmed by the bank in her presence which she still continued to deny so she even lies about the lies she tells.

she would encourage you to go out a few times with her as she said she wanted to spend time with you and then she hooks up with her friends and totally ignores you and speaks in indonesian to make sure you don't have a clue what she's talking about. the only reason she encouraged you to attend is so you had the pay the taxi fare because she sure did not want to spend time with you. when you had to leave a party because she had vanished into a bedroom with her friends and you felt uncomfortable and embarrassed being left alone, she did not even notice for 3 hours, that shows how much she cared about you or being with you.

even on your honeymoon you found her sat with another man, with her legs raised to show off her knickers, her dress straps hanging off her shoulders and her bra showing. she had chosen to spend the evening with another man to flirt outrageously with when she surely should be spending her time with you, honeymoon's are supposed to be private and romantic but she chose to hook up with other men instead and when you turned up, she just ignored you and yet again made you feel so unwelcome that you returned to the hotel room and left her to it.

the day before you was due to fly home, she told you and her father that she was going to church and then she posted on-line that she was out having fun with her friends and so she lied yet again about where she was going and who she was with.

you have tried so hard to sort out any problems you had with her and she refuses to deal with anything at all because according to her she does not want to talk about it but then she gets on-line and on the phone to discuss it all with her friends and family and they decide what to do between them, how insane is that, you and her should have the privacy and should deal with your personal life between you but she decides that you are excluded from her personal life and opens up to all her on-line admirers who have done their constant best to wreck your relationship with her for months now.

this woman lies to everyone and she claims to be a good honest christian. she is none of those, she's so bad, she constantly lies and she is no way a christian. she refuses to return your money because she wants to keep it all and that has been her only motivation from the very start and by now she has probably already moved on to another man in the quest for more attention and more money and my god she has enough choice, she's all over the networks hooked up with one to one private links with men in search of their money. let her go break their hearts and take their money, she's done enough damage to you already. you did everything she wanted and you did no wrong at all, you dont deserve the pain she caused you, take comfort in that as i told you before.

Don't be too hard on her.

i havent even started and im just telling the truth which needs to be told, if i ever deviate from the truth, then u can stop me, until then x

is it true that she told you she had a copy of the contract for the house purchase and that was a lie? is it true that she told you she held receipts for funds paid and that was a lie? is it true that she told you she was going to a meeting with the notary, the seller and the agent to draw up a second contract to ensure protection for a second payment it was a lie? is it true that she claimed she had to wait around for hours because the notary was late attending the meeting to draw up a contract which was a lie? is it true that she then told you that a friend of hers had to rush her to the doctors after the meeting because she was ill and stressed out due to that meeting, which of course never took place? is it true that when you asked you asked her for a copy of the second contract she said she would send it to you but never did telling you not to worry, she had it under control and is it true that when you got to jakarta you discovered there was no second contract of course because she never went to the meeting and she was in fact not ill at all, she has been out all day partying with friends eating fine food and drinking? is it also true that she ensured that you could never close the deal on the house because she prevented you from doing any on-line banking since she refused to let you use her PC during your stay and she also held all the security codes and account numbers needed to carry out any on-line transactions on your bank accounts which had trusted her with? is it also true that she would not let you have those codes so that you go to an internet cafe and get on-line? is it also true that she refused to delete those security codes and account numbers from her computer before you left jakarta as she wished to keep records of your confidential information and used the excuse that she could not access her email to delete the records, even though you and connie knew full well that she could because on one occasion when you asked her when she was sat at her PC actually sending and receiving email at the time? is it also true that the seller of this house which she ensured you could not complete on, is known to connie and they have mutual friends who communicate off-line and on-line at facebook ?

In answer to all . . . Yes

is it also true that she claimed as God her witness when she told you she never had any emotional relationships with any other vox members at all which was another lie ? is it also true that she claimed that she never exchanged private messages with any male vox members including tom, tim, funkybluerooster, kaydee and guy and did she swear on her fathers life that was true and in fact was that also yet another lie ?

yes

is it true that your 9 year old nephew cameron, sent connie an email pleading with her to let him communicate with you by email because he had become so upset and distressed as he was missing you so much and had become worried as you had not been in touch for over a month ? is it true that this young child adores you as much as you adore him and his life was already unsettled due to his parents recent divorce ? is it also true that you had remained a constant for him and also offered some stability in his life which was shaken by connie's refusal to allow you to communicate with him ?

Yes that is also true.

is it true that both connie and her father made demands that you hand over all your money and let connie take control of all your funds to spend as she pleased and because you refused he and connie decided to throw you out on the streets of jakarta

Yes

is it true that you spent £3,700.00 in september 2008 on a trip to jakarta to meet connie which included a stay in a hotel and flights to bali ? is it true that you alone paid for the complete cost of the wedding ? is it true that you also paid the bar bill at the reception to cover the costs of all connie's family and friends alcoholic drinks ? is it also true that you was charged for many items that were added to your bill without your knowledge by connie and her friends ? is it true that you paid for connie's food and drink when eating out and in during your last 2 month visit to Jakarta ? is it also true that you paid for the short break to Singapore including the flights and the hotel ? is it also true that you paid for the hotel and flights to Bali for your honey moon ?

is it also true that you had to pay a £580.00 mobile phone bill on your return as you had no other way to contact your family whilst in jakarta as connie had refused to allow you use of her computer to email them ? is it also true that your parents had to pay a £520.00 mobile phone bill to stay in touch with you because they could not contact you by email whilst you was in jakarta ?

is it also true that you had spent thousands on wedding arrangements in the UK which you had to cancel ? is it true that you spent hundreds of pounds on telephone calls to embassy officials, foreign office government departments, home office departments and banks to arrange connies visa's application when she had no intention or desire to travel to the UK ? is it also true that you paid money for connies fathers prescription after connie lied to you saying she had no money to pay for her fathers medication ?

is it also true that despite all this, connie repeatedly accused you of being 'stingy' [selfish with money] and taunted you by telling you that you was more stingy than her friends former husband, who she deemed to be an a**ehole ?

is it also true that connie and her family contributed nothing to the cost of the wedding at all ?

is it also true that connies friends and family who are by her own definition, much more generous and giving and kind than you, between them only gave a total of £120.00 as a wedding gift ?

is it also true that connie kept all the gift money from the wedding which you paid for ?

You're reducing me to tears now but the answer again is YES that is all true. With one exception. I am not able to confirm that the wedding gift money amounted to £120.00 as I had no involvement in that at all. Connie did tell me that the total was £120.00 and that's all I know of it.

do you believe in God ? do you believe in Angels ? do you believe in truth ?

To believe in God I would have to be certain that God exists and since I do not know for certain if God exists, I can not state that I believe in God. I do believe in Angels yes, without any doubt I do believe they exist. As for the truth . . . it is the most important factor in life.

is it true that you sacrificed being with your own friends and family to move to Indonesia to be with connie ? is it true that you sold your home to buy a home for you, connie, her father and her maid to live in to secure a future and was it your intention to raise children with your wife in Asia ? is it true that you sacrificed your business and made staff redundant because you wanted to be with connie ? is it true that you cancelled plans for a UK club tour because you was moving to jakarta ? is it true that you did all this because you fell in love with connie ?

Yes

is it true that connie and her father told you that despite all these things you had done, they doubted your commitment to the relationship ?

is it also true that you replied by saying "and what have you two done then . . . nothing" ?

and was your reply met with total silence because they had indeed done nothing and so the two of them were left speechless ?

Yes, that is true.

did you ever lie to connie ? did you ever keep any secrets from her ? did you ever demand any privacy ?

Easy tiger ! Do you want me down on my knees as well as in tears! The answer is simple enough . . . No

you may have a broken heart but you also have a bullet proof soul so i shall continue

is it true that you detest any act of violence ? as an example, is it true that at the age of 11, you was confronted by a group of boys, all members of a rival football team or friends of those members whilst doing a paper round to earn money to give to your mother who was struggling financially as a single mother and is it true that 3 of them held you down whilst one of them, Jason, punched you repeatedly in the face, the stomach and the throat until you was bleeding ? is it true that those holding you down were so shocked by the damage done to you that they refused to hold you down any longer allowing you to stand and defend yourself ? is it true that Jason continued to throw punches at you and you stood still choosing to take those punches regardless of the pain until you fell to the floor ? is it true that you did this because violence to you is repulsive and you refused to retaliate at all ?

is it true that these boys then helped you to your feet and felt so bad that they all helped you deliver the rest of your papers to the neighbourhood as you was not capable of doing so yourself before they walked away ashamed ?

All true

Is it true that you have refused to have anything to do with your own father since the age of 7 because you was so disgusted by revelations that he had repeatedly committed acts of violence towards your mother ?

is it also true that connie told her friends and family before christmas that she was in fear of physical attack by you because according to her, you had threatened her.

To threaten someone is to make a statement of intent to harm or kill someone. I have never made such a statement to anyone at all, including and especially Connie. In answer to your question . . . Yes it is true, Connie actually designed banners and made many network posts to advertise that lie and yes it is true that I have refused to have anything to do with my own father ever since I was able to understand the atrocious things he is guilty of. What he did disgusts me and I never will never speak to him for as long as I live.

connie has been using this quote on her vox for some time now "Cruel words can do worse than break bones: They can break your spirit, cripple your confidence, even make you physically ill. ~ Patricia Evans"

is it true that for many months during your engagement to connie [with the notion upheld and supported by hundreds of her on-line friends across many social networks] that she accused you repeatedly of being a sociopath and defined you with a reference to a website

Yes that is true.

is it true that connie repeatedly accused you of and also repeatedly reported to her friends that you was trying to control her ?

what did you actually ask of her ?

Again . . . Yes that is true. I asked of her a few simple things. I asked that she be open and honest. I asked that she would be faithful. I asked her to love me. I asked her to tell me if she ever decided she would rather be with someone else so that I could be spared the pain of an affair with all the lies and deceit. I always told her she should do what she wants, when she wants, with whoever she wants, whenever she wants. I just asked her to be honest, that's all I wanted.

You gave her total freedom then with a few reasonable conditions then that she would be open and honest with you.

Yes. That's the truth and that's all I have.

is there anything you said or did to connie that you think was wrong and or you now regret ?

Yes there is . . . I had become so tired, so exhausted, so humiliated, so embarrassed, so upset and so devastated that I told her that she was a lying back-stabbing bitch and that was such a terrible thing to say.

why did you tell her that ? was it to hurt her ?

No I did not want to hurt her, I never wanted to hurt her. She has many qualities that I admire. There is so much that I found so appealing and attractive about Connie which is why I fell in love with her, there are many wonderful things about her which is why I wanted to marry her, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.

It was a terrible thing to say and I do regret saying it but the truth is the truth and that's all there is.

I think you should leave it there because I can't deal with this anymore right now. So please . . . stop now

can you answer this

connie friendster 02

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